Nice to have you back! Today's episode is the third in our four-part series based on the Montessori approach to toilet learning, starting at birth. Over the course of four weeks, we are deconstructing Merry Hadden’s fantastic Montessori toileting article and emphasizing how elimination communication is a truly Montessori-friendly toilet learning method.
Today's episode will focus on part three - remedial toilet learning past two years of age.
Merry refers to any potty training after two years of age as “remedial” toilet learning.
REMEDIAL? Wow! I just love how Montessori educators use the most accurate word possible in speaking of and with children - remedial! I would not have the guts to call it that on my website, but since I’m a little biased, I googled the definition of remedial and discovered that it also means:
“corrective, curative, restorative, and health-giving.”
Ah. Ok I get it now!
You see, if we are not following the natural laws of development (which we covered in the first part of this series), and have not taken to heart the role of the adult and preparing the environment (part two) - and if we have not “given the child the right information from the beginning” as Merry recommends - then toilet learning after 2 years old would be considered remedial.
After missing so much of the developmental picture, those parents toilet training after 2 years old will need to help their child “restore” her/his natural propensity for good hygiene, cleanliness, and order.
A parent will also need to “correct” the poor physical sensitivity and poor hygiene habits their child has developed from wearing hyper-wicking disposable diapers for 2-4 full years.
And, we will need to “give the child health” by teaching her or him to put their waste where it belongs, to maintain healthy skin and a well-functioning excretory system.
So, “remedial toilet training” it is!
No matter what you call it, today I’ll share some great tips from Merry’s article for those of you who have missed the Elimination Communication window of 0-18 months - if you have a child two years or older that you, the parents, are ready to potty train, or if you know someone who does - this mind-opening episode is for you.
Today I’ll share:
- The six unique goals we have for toilet learning with a child past the age of 2
- Six tips for parents working with potty training a 2 year old
- The specific attitudes we should have toward a 2+ year old working on remedial toilet learning
- How to give a child “choices” in the toileting routine
- How to set up a montessori-friendly bathroom
- How to involve the child in cleanup
- A few tips from our readers
Links and other resources mentioned today:
- Merry L. Hadden is an AMI Assistance to Infancy Consultant and trainer based in Florida, and her article can be read in full, or downloaded, here on montessoriguide.org. You can also watch Montessori Guide’s video on Toilet Learning here, about halfway down the page.
- Free Potty Training Primer - my free primer for potty training families to get in the right headspace and begin toilet training their 18 month + toddler
- Tiny Potty Training Book for ages 18 months and up
- Easy Catch #1
- Easy Catch #2
- Easy Catch #3
- Easy Catch #4
- The Go Diaper Free Book for ages 0-18 months
- Montessori from the Start Book - the book we use to add Montessori to our home
- Top Hat Potty at TinyUndies.com for pottying tiny babies in-arms
- Mini Potty at TinyUndies.com for babies who can sit unassisted, and short toddler types
- Easy Start Guide for Elimination Communication - get started today for free 0-18 months
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