How do I move from part-time ECing to more full-time ECing?
You will hear:
- What "full-time EC" actually means (and what it doesn't)
- How to know if you're ready to move beyond part-time EC
- Simple ways to build on the success you're already having
Links and other resources mentioned today:
Maybe this has happened to you: you’ve been doing just the morning pee or just poops and feeling pretty good about part-time EC, but now your situation has changed, or your energy has picked back up, or you’re just tired of using diapers anymore...how do you move from part-time elimination communication to full-time ECing?
What, exactly, is the next step in potty training our infants and moving towards being truly “diaper-free?”
One of our readers asked this question, so today I’m gonna give it a full answer:
Q: How do you know/decide when to take things “up a notch”? We have been part-time ECing our daughter O (8.5 mos) for 2.5 mos, and we’re doing really well with pottytunities (post-nap, post-nursing, etc) and catching her poops (it’s very clear on her face when she’s pooping). We just don’t know how to transition to the next phase — working toward F/T? — from here. ~Sarah R.
A: Hey Sarah! Thanks for submitting your question to the EC Q+A…I think it’s a wonderful one.
Knowing it’s time to move from part-time to full-time EC
My first thoughts are that you already know that you are ready to take things up a notch because you sent me this question as your top EC question. :)
So, there’s that one….
You “know” that it’s time to move from part-time EC to more full-time EC when you start to ask yourself or your husband or your best friend, “Sally, we’re doing really well. I wonder how I can step this up a notch?”
Deciding on whether to move to full-time EC
The first thing I’d suggest is to consider why you’re doing so.
Is it because you are having success and would genuinely like to try extending EC across a longer time span, more diverse situations, and maybe increasing pee catches along with your poo success?
Or is it because you want to “master” EC and be done with it already?
Or perhaps you want to become perfect at it?
Maybe you’re just wondering if you’re doing “enough”…or if you’ve built the confidence to move forward and take on more?
Or how about our top reason - are you tired of using diapers?
No matter what the reason, when you make your decision, take a few deep breaths and feel into your body at that very moment that you consider it….Do I feel excited and content, relaxed and self-assured, tense and anxious, afraid and nervous?
Your body will always tell you which decision to make.
Oh, and btw…you can’t make the WRONG decision. It’s all a learning process. If you decide to take on more and it doesn’t work out, you can always go back to what you’ve been doing already…knowing that you at least tried, and forgiving yourself (because elimination communication is not all-or-nothing...it’s about “communication” not catch rate).
How to transition from part-time EC to full-time EC
The first thing you’ll want to do is make an inventory of where you *are* with EC, right now. What things do you do? What things don’t you do? What times of day are you active? When are you not? Where are you? Where aren’t you? You get the idea.
Then, look at which specific aspect you’d like to move toward: I’d like to begin to catch more pees; I’d like to teach my child to signal; I’d like to teach her hard skills that will move her toward potty independence more gracefully and effortlessly; I’d like to ditch the daytime diapers, etc.
Then, fill in the gaps between where you are now and where you’d like to be.
You can use your intuition and brainpower to figure this out, or you van use my book and private, off-Facebook forum.
I also offer 7 minicourses on the biggest EC challenges, including nighttime, outings, getting back on track, wrapping it up, potty pauses, etc., in case you already have my book and want a deep dive.
Do some observation time (episode 83.5a) and find out your baby’s current natural timing and rhythm, and signals (if any). No matter your focus, do this re-observation as a rule!
You can read or listen to this post on how to get your baby to signal (episode #47).
You can read my book for the brand new section on the building blocks to potty independence (what to teach, and when to teach it, to get your baby on the easy road to potty independent).
You can also refer to my book for how to stop using diapers, and when to do it. This podcast also covers the topic (episode #41).
You can look into which EC clothing, undies, and back-ups I’ve used for all my babies (episode #53), and see what you would like to change to next.
You can assess moving to the big toilet (episode #40), or transitioning away from in-arms pottying (episode #39).
It really depends upon what you envision to be next.
(And btw...full-time EC still doesn’t mean “all or nothing.” It just means you’re now, during waking hours, fully open to pottying your baby and doing your best to respond. Especially if you’re done with diapers...you’ve kind of got to be “on,” right?)
If all it is that you want is to do MORE EC, MORE OFTEN, then just start doing EC more!
Sarah, thanks so much for your question!
If any of you have shared this experience of moving from part-time to full-time EC, please post your experiences in the comments below.
xx Andrea
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This is a re-post of an article originally published by Andrea Olson on 12/29/20
Hey! This episode isn’t showing on Apple podcasts.
It is on there. Here is the link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-would-indigenous-person-say-about-pottying-their/id663607202?i=1000526353669
For me, this link goes to what seems like a different episode, one on “what would an indigenous person say…” I’m also not finding the one on Part-time EC to Full Time… but am interested to hear it!
That’s what I’m seeing too, looks like the link might be incorrect.
It was! 🤭
Hey Jenna, looks like I had posted the wrong link before 😬 – here is the one for this post: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/how-do-i-move-from-part-time-ecing-to-more-full-time-ecing/id663607202?i=1000503751731
The text is not available?
I guess not, sorry about that! I would suggest clicking on the YT video and using subtitles or perhaps getting an AI transcript? Sorry!
Thanks so much for this episode! I actually have a follow up question and I’d be happy to get advice on that: My daughter is now 16 months old and out of diapers (during the day) for about a month which is amazing! It only took us about a week to get from part time EC (poop only) to ditching diapers during the day completely! Now my question is: When and more importantly how do I teach her the next steps to get more independent? And what exactly are they? Side note: She refused the potty from the start and we do EC only on the big toilet with the seat reducer. That’s the only way we could get her to sit for a while and eventually go (currently with a book in her hands). I have baught a wooden step that should help her get on the toilet herself but I feel like when I try to teach her something (stepping on the toilet herself, pushing down her pants…) the moment when she needs to go she always protests and wants to do something else. Taking her to the toilet has to go quick and with little talking, that’s how she more likely stays seated. Thanks so much in advance! Hanna
At her age you are fine to keep on getting her up on the toilet as long as she is not resisting because of it. However, having a mini potty as an option, in the bathroom or in another room in the house (livingroom, kitchen) could be a good tool to give her a choice to use it, or to start doing it more herself. This desire for independence will develop all on its own. You can also start teaching her how to push down and pull up her own pants, but do it while dressing, not at potty time so its not stressful. And congratulations!! ❤️