How to tell a brand new mom about elimination communication (Without feeling pushy)

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If you are here and you already know about EC, awesome. Please share this episode, number 129, with your brand new mama friends who don't know about EC.

In today’s episode, I'm going to teach you how to talk about Elimination Communication. I'm going to model it by sharing how I tell new moms about EC. But if you still don't feel confident after listening to this, then just send your friends directly to this podcast.

Now, if you've been sent here by a friend, new mamas, first of all, congratulations on your new baby. I've had five babies over the course of eight years. I know it's exhausting. Hang in there.

Secondly, I'm really thrilled that you're here.

Please enjoy this “public service announcement.” It's a little PSA from yours truly:

100% of parents who start EC later or miss the boat entirely tell me that they wish they would have heard about EC sooner and started sooner.

EC starts early because it's easier that way, because it's dependent on babies' inborn instincts. They're born this way.

If you are here early, sweet. If not, but you're still within the sweet spot of 0 to 18 months, please listen and learn during the show today. It is all EC at this stage of the game.

If you have a toddler over 18 months old, probably don't need to sit here and listen to this one today. Just grab my non-coercive Potty Training book and skip EC (but maybe do it with your next baby).

What I Say to New Moms About Elimination Communication

And for all you new moms who are listening to this episode today, this is what I have to say to you:

Hey, new mom! To welcome your baby and celebrate your becoming a new mom, I want to give you the gift of knowing your options when it comes to three years of diapers and frustrating potty training, which is the destiny, unfortunately, in this day and age, for 99.9% of people.

We believe and practice this thing called Elimination Communication. It's a mouthful, so we just call it EC, which is basically what all humans have done for 99.99999% of human history:

they potty their babies from birth.

EC works because babies are perfectly made, like all mammals, to prefer good hygiene. It's kind of like crate training a puppy. Babies do not prefer to go in their diapers just as much as a pup does not prefer to go in their bed, and actually will resist doing so.

Just think about this for a second, new mama:

Your baby cries, and cries, and cries, and you try everything under the sun to soothe him or her. And then you finally check the diaper and you say, “Oh, you were wet. That's why you were telling me. That's why you were crying.”

But...your baby wasn’t crying because she wanted you to change the diaper. If you rewind just a second, she actually wanted you to take that diaper off so that she could go hygienically.

Yes, it's true.

Think about how far the human species would have come if babies were pooping and peeing all over the cave.

Without any kind of diaper backup at all, just going everywhere, wherever (because they didn't have diapers back then). I will tell you that we wouldn't have made it that far, and neither would any mammal.

Your baby is born with these amazing instincts and it's very, very easy to start EC early on.

Now, before you say “OMG, I'm already overwhelmed,” hear me out.

All you gotta do is change your perspective from “this diaper is a toilet” to “this diaper is now a backup for when we miss each other or we're not doing EC,” maybe we're just doing it part-time. And that's it.

You just have to shift your perspective. Diaper is a backup until we can get some success in that potty.

So Many Benefits of Elimination Communication

EC is an exposure technique and, besides breastfeeding, EC is the number one thing you can do to give your baby the best start in this world...and to save money. My goodness, a lot of money. I've probably saved at least $15,000 in diaper expenses.

And it's the number one thing you can do to increase your connection with your baby. All the EC mamas and daddies I know say, "Wow, we have a much deeper connection."

And you can also enhance the opportunity for earlier mobility and communication, and things just being less fussy being in general, and EC is the number one thing you can do to save the earth (we will be talking about that in an episode or two).

Elimination Communication can cut your diaper expense by up to 75%.

You heard me right. You would use diapers for roughly one to one and a half years instead of three to four years.

EC can also help you completely avoid potty training, which is an unnatural process where no one wins - except the diaper companies. They win. They definitely win to the tune of billions of dollars.

I haven't had to potty train any of my babies and I also run two businesses. It's totally easy to do this part-time - just the morning pees or just the poops only - as well if you have to go back to work.

I mean the only person that benefits is the diaper companies if you don't do any EC and you just delay potty training.

So just think about that.

Again, Elimination Communication is not all or nothing - you can do it part time.

4 Quick Tips to Try Out Elimination Communication Today

Here are some quick tips, new mom. I want to give you some ideas so you can try it out today.

And if you find that you like EC after trying out these few tips, please grab my book. I also highly recommend a top hat potty - it's going to make newborn EC way easier. It's this potty that basically you squeeze between your legs and you hold your baby over it. It's awesome.

Try these experiments first and see if you like EC, and if you do - usually one catch and you're hooked, got to warn you - if you do, then come back for some more resources.

Here are some dip-your-foot-in experiments:

1. When your baby wakes up, hold your baby over the sink, the top hat potty, the toilet, or a waterproof pad, and say “psss” like the sound of running water, or “mm-mm,” grunting. You might catch a pee because of hormones (ADH wears off), and because you pee then too, right? Everybody pees when they wake up.

You’ll be holding your baby in the Classic EC Position, which is gently under the thighs, their back is leaning up against your torso safely and comfortably, and you're supporting their wobbly head and neck with your chest. They're basically in a deep squat, which is how we go best.