If I had a dollar for how many moms didn’t start elimination communication because they had to return to work, use a daycare, and didn’t think it would be worth the effort...
...man, I’d have a bunch of dollars!
You see, I am convinced that with the right story in your mind, you too will realize that you CAN do EC super-part-time, use a daycare, and still have early potty independence.
You can have it all.
And we are going to use Andrea’s example to prove it, once and for all.
When Andrea learned about Elimination Communication
Andrea (no relation ;) ) lives in California. She heard about EC and grabbed my Go Diaper Free book when her daughter was 13 months old.
Her words: “Man, I’m late. I wish I would’ve discovered this sooner.”
You see, Andrea is a teacher and has her daughter in daycare 5 days a week, 6:30am to 3:30pm.
“But, I’m a teacher...a full time mom.”
She was immediately discouraged. Like many other moms, she thought, “there’s no way I can do this - they’re all stay at home moms. I’m a full time teacher, a working mom.”
But, unlike most other moms, she responded to her inner dialogue with “If I don’t do it, I’m lazy. I’m just gonna do it.”
So, she and hubs committed to doing EC very consistently at home, part time.
How they did EC super-part-time at home
They immediately switched their daughter to Seventh Generation diapers while at daycare (because they feel more wet in them than the bigger brands).
At home, Andrea was at a loss because, her words: “I don’t even know how to cloth diaper!”
At home, their daughter was always given an opportunity to go at wake-ups, when she returned home from daycare, after naps.
Bonus points: their daughter also very quickly began to wait to poop until she got home from daycare.
At daycare, she wore a Seventh Gen disposable backup and they did not do any EC with her.
Trying to ditch diapers at 18 months at daycare
After 5 months of doing EC part time at home, with consistency, she checked in with the daycare to see if they could send their daughter with no diapers. They were unsupportive at this 18 month age, even though Andrea showed them upon arrival one day that her daughter poops in the potty.
So, feeling somewhat defeated, they waited until their daughter was 2 years old to take her out of diapers at home and did the potty training method right away.
They simultaneously started a new preschool that DID support their diaper-free goals and being out of diapers at 2 years old became a quick reality.
Their super-easy potty training experience at 2 years old
The first day of summer vacation off from teaching, the family used their last diaper EVER. Potty training was so easy.
Within 2 days she was telling them she needed to go. They quit diapers at night the same day, cold turkey, and never looked back.
(She had already begun to wear Tiny Trainers at naptime because she was waking up dry.)
Andrea had always read that “if you do EC, you won’t have to potty train,” and for her, this was pretty darn true.
Part time EC, the way they did it (consistently), was a great preparation for potty training.
“The potty was already part of our routine.”
Within two or three days, using my Tiny Potty Training Book to wrap it up, Andrea’s daughter was totally finished. Day and night. Done deal.
Her biggest struggle with EC
Her biggest struggle with elimination communication was daycare not being supportive at 18 months.
(If you want to learn how YOU can change that at your daycare or preschool, listen to episode 84 in a few weeks.)
Andrea also admits to being so self-conscious about doing EC. She thought others would think she’s crazy. She told her BFF and got a crazy look from her, even.
(If you want to learn a great elevator pitch to tell others about EC without getting the stink-eye, tune in next week to episode 83!)
Andrea was a “closet ECer,” by the book. She wanted to share about it and normalize it, but she wasn’t confident in what she was doing until she looked back on the experience afterward.
She was part of our Go Diaper Free private online community group, so she def got a lot of support from other book owners there, but IRL it was admittedly hard.
Her biggest struggle with potty training
Her biggest struggle with potty training was...nothing. It was easy because she’d already consistently exposed her daughter to the potty for the 11 months prior to the training.
Going against the grain
Andrea did such an amazing job and I just want to take a moment to recognize that.
She did EC even in the face of starting later, and full-time daycare...she decided to go against our propensity toward laziness and just do it.
And she stuck with it! Potty training after super-part-time elimination communication was a BREEZE for them, you guys. A breeze.
Her advice for you full time moms out there...
She wanted me to tell all of you that “even if you work full time, any effort you put into EC will make a difference.”
She recommends that you learn the steps you need to take, by whatever age your baby is, with the help of my book.
If she could do it, you can do it!
And she’s probably gonna have another baby in the near future! She really wants to do EC from birth with her new baby...and I don’t know about you, but I think she can do it. :)
So whatdya think? Amazing, yes? But oh so realistic, normal, and possible.
Tell me in the comments below:
Is your kiddo in daycare and are you being lazy, or inspired, about doing EC at home?
Let’s talk in the comments, help each other out, and be heard! See you below.
PS - here’s the video version of this episode in case you prefer to YouTube it. ;)