My oldest son turns 11 years old this week!!
(Geez, that means I am also older, y’all! Ahhhh!)
In celebration of this wonderful event, I’d like to share a little bit about how I believe doing elimination communication with him, from birth, has impacted his life as a now pre-teen.
I would like to encourage you to listen to Kaiva’s full EC story in episode 11 of the Go Diaper Free Podcast at godiaperfree.com/11. It reveals:
- How I first learned about EC...and thought it weird but interesting
- Starting EC
- Disposable diapers vs. cloth diapers
- Bumps in the road - crawling, walking, moving house several times, nighttime pottying, etc.
- How I started writing my book, EC Simplified (now Go Diaper Free)
- Traveling internationally and doing EC
- Doing EC all by your lonesome
- EC Completion - daytime and nighttime
- Issues with potty trained toddlers
- EC for co-parents in two separate households
- Preparing your toddler for ECing a new baby
- Plus much more...
Jump to today.
Kaiva has been poop trained since birth. He actually only had one poop “miss” since being out of daytime diapers at 9 months old...and that was around 18 months old.
He has never wet the bed since being out of nighttime diapers at 26 months.
He never had to be potty trained.
(At 13 months old I did do a 1-2 day naked teaching experience, which is outlined in my Hybrid Plan that comes with the Go Diaper Free book - this experience taught him how to physically take himself to the potty!)
Kaiva is extremely well-spoken.
He is brilliant, thoughtful, and contemplative.
He is able to sit for long periods of time and focus on things he loves.
He is confident and self-assured.
He is very independent and in touch with his body.
Kaiva, as some of you know, was also diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome a few years ago. Looking back, I definitely knew he was different as a baby - super-advanced and very mature for his age in a lot of ways.
In retrospect, I wouldn’t say that having AS impacted EC with him other than he didn’t like poop-in-the-diaper - at all! Which is a great thing. He was a fairly normal, verbose, early-talking, early-crawling, early-walking kinda guy. But no issues with EC that I can see, looking back. Perhaps EC helped him feel even more confident as a young tot. Who knows!
But knowing that he has AS doesn’t define him. We use it as a resource to help him cope with some of the things that bother him, and it helps him feel less “weird” and more proud of his strengths, like super-duper hearing and awesome brain activity!
I will address ECing a child on the Autism Spectrum in a future episode. AS doesn’t define who Kaiva is. A label can not tell any of us about our children above and beyond what we know in our hearts is true.
And my Kaiva? He’s a gem. He was a pleasure to EC and he is a pleasure to be with to this day.
Please join me in wishing Kaiva a very happy 11th birthday this week!
And tell me in the comments below:
What type of child did your EC’d baby develop into?
I’m curious to hear your stories as well!
PS - here’s the video version of this episode in case you prefer to YouTube it. ;)