This post was originally posted on April 21, 2016, and has been fully updated on August 10, 2021 to include an audio (Podcast) version, a video (YouTube) version, and to include some basic updates. Enjoy! xx Andrea
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This is a guest post from our Go Diaper Free Certified Coach in Scottsdale, Arizona, Jessica Barra. I hope you enjoy her honest explanation of how EC has helped ease her mommy guilt (and how gracefully she does EC while also working outside the house). xx Andrea
Oh, mommy guilt. That horrible beast that strikes every mom at some point as a sinister little voice in our heads. You’ve heard it tell you all sorts of ridiculous things like, “You mean you actually spent 30 extra seconds in the bathroom to be alone instead of cherishing your children? How could you! They’re only young once! They’ll never be successful, competent adults now!”
Let’s all collectively punch mommy guilt in the face.
I struggled with pretty significant mommy guilt after my son Owen was born. I had to work four days a week starting when he was just six weeks old.
How would he love me the same when I was out of his sight? How could I be so irresponsible to have a baby when I couldn’t stay home with him? Leaving him at SIX WEEKS? He’s too young! On and on.
I discovered EC when Owen was 9 months old. To my utter surprise, he hadn’t yet forgotten who I was, but mommy-guilt still insisted something horrible was bound to happen to our relationship while I was out working.
Not only was I drawn to EC because of the no-more-poopy-diapers aspect (but seriously, who doesn’t love that part of EC?), I was intrigued by the connection EC builds between the “EC’er” (parent, grandparent, caregiver, etc.) and the child. I excitedly bought the Go Diaper Free book and my husband and I dove in head first.
Over that first weekend, we spent time with Owen without our usual distractions. Learning to communicate with him about when he had to pee and poop was so intriguing.
Observing his signals let me see things about him I hadn’t noticed before: facial expressions, squeaks and squeals, shivers, movements.
As he started catching on to what we were doing, it was fun learning how he communicated his needs to us, and so rewarding when we realized we interpreted his signals correctly. My intuition regarding when he had to go was improving, and overall I felt incredibly connected to my son.
And then, all too soon, it was Monday. Time to go back to work, and time for mommy guilt to suggest that our new EC connection would be spoiled.
Well, guess what happened?
I came home from work to find a happy, healthy baby who was excited to see his mama (whom he loves most), and who signaled to me that he had to poop.
Take THAT, mommy guilt!
My second baby, Eloise, is 3 months old and we started EC at 1 week old. Creating that same connection with her has been amazing and fills me with joy.
Sometimes the memory of holding her squishy thighs over the potty as I wait for her to go is what gets me through the workday.
No, EC is not the end-all cure for mommy guilt. But, it does help me grow a deeper connection with my children that acts as a shield when the guilt strikes.
You may have thought EC was just about poop and pee, but no. I assure you, it is much, much more.
You might want to grab the book that we used and start your EC journey today!
And please leave me a comment, below, if you've dealt with mommy guilt, too, and how you managed it. I'd love to hear from you.
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