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When beginning Elimination Communication with a baby or young toddler, you may be wondering what to expect as far as back-ups go.
(If you aren't wondering yet, then you're still using diapers as a back-up. After reading this opening sentence, perhaps you are NOW wondering what lays ahead for your EC journey...regarding back-ups!)
Which types of back-up can you choose from? Which are appropriate when? Which will help your baby learn the *most* at which ages and stages?
But, wait! Let's first answer the question:
What is a "back-up?"
An elimination communication "back-up" is what you clothe your baby's bottom in to support toilet learning, keep baby comfortable, maximize the sensation of feeling wet, maximize baby's independence, and keep your floors and their clothing dry (when that's important). Back-ups can range from a disposable diaper to completely naked, from cloth pull-up covers to tiny underwear.
Let's now discuss further.
The big question.
I am asked this question almost every single day on our private book owners' facebook group and by email:
"Those of you with older babes or who've been through this once before: when did you ditch diapers and just do training pants or undies all the time (or at least all the time during the day)? Why did you pick that time? Would you do it the same again? I feel like we’re ready with my 11 month old, during the day at least, but he’s on the verge of walking so was thinking once he hits that milestone, diapers only for sleep.
Edited to add: We are actually in trainers most of the waking hours now. I think the biggest change would be going out of the house in trainers." -Rachel
First, here is my overall guiding advice:
use whichever backup helps baby signal the most clearly, helps you stay the most sane and calm, keeps baby the most content, and helps support baby's current developmental activities and independence best.
Second, if you are doing elimination communication (EC) with your baby, we need to make one subtle yet important shift in your view of the diaper:
When doing EC, the diaper is no longer his or her primary toilet. It is now considered a "back-up."
You must shift your perspective to using the diaper as a "back-up" for when you are not on it, when baby is not on it, when baby is sick, when it is inconvenient to potty baby (like while traveling), or for accidents and emergencies.
If you are toilet training your toddler, the diaper is immediately removed from the picture during the day. If you are not night training alongside daytime, you will likely still use a diaper at night, but as with EC, the diaper is now considered a "back-up," not a full-time toilet.
Let's begin with newborns.
And, btw, throughout this post I'm going to sprinkle in little graphic illustrations of what I've used with my own 4 babies. :)
The best EC back-ups for NEWBORN babies
1. Cloth diapers
I highly recommend using cloth diapers from birth, if you are able to. Don't let this overwhelm you by thinking it has to be complicated: you can just fold the insert into 3rds and lay it inside a cloth diaper shell (or use an AIO system that has a shell and an insert laid on top of it - not stuffed) and then snap or velcro that baby into place for easy on's and off's. No need for snappies or pins.
Some folks like to use only a cotton prefold with a snappie, no cover.
Some will use a "workhorse" which is just the inside part of the cloth diaper fastened to itself thru sewn-in velcro or snaps (or held together with a snappi or pins).
If there is a cloth diaper service in your area, please hire them! Ask a relative to give you at least 3 months of service as a shower gift.
The reason I recommend a cloth diaper service (vs. washing yourself) is that you are going to have a lot of diapers that only have one tiny "shart" (what we call a wet fart in our household) on them, and those will have to be laundered. You will be catching a lot of pees and poos in the toilet at the easier-to-EC newborn stage. Those shart diapers can be so annoying, and overwhelming...so do yourself a favor and have someone else launder them.
If the cloth diaper is rubbing against baby's umbilical stump prior to it falling off, you may want to use a newborn disposable diaper for the first 2 weeks (the ones that have the little cut-out for the cord). If the cloth diaper is giant on your tiny baby, and you just can't get it going, use disposables for a spell.
2. Disposable diapers
The disposable question is an important one. I have personally used a mix of cloth and disposables with my babies.
Again, we go back to the overall guideline: what does baby signal best in?
Personally, my first signaled best in cloth; my subsequent 4 babies have signaled best in disposables. Prior to my most recent baby, Twyla, I had *only* ever used Seventh Generation Diapers...they were fairly leak-proof but they did feel pretty wet after baby goes, and most babies do not like how it feels so will avoid peeing in them.
However, Seventh Gen has changed their diapers again and they are now, in my personal opinion, ugly (they used to be undyed, no patterns, now they have yellowish loud designs all over them!), and more importantly, way too wicking. And they pretty much never biodegrade!
With my 5th baby I use Dyper biodegradable bamboo diapers. They biodegrade in 75 days (see their website for details on how this most optimally works) and even if they didn't biodegrade exactly that fast, or you threw them out in the regular trash, they are biodegradable which, unlike all other disposables, is WAY better than an estimated 500 years for sposies to finally break down in the landfills. And I love that they have a color strip to indicate when baby is wet (yellow turns to blue) and they are super duper soft. Most importantly, they help my baby stay sensitive to feeling wet, and they help my baby signal more clearly, day and night. Love them.
(Even if it took 1 year for this diaper to biodegrade, the alternative is daunting. 500 years is waaaaaay more than "seven generations" if you ask me. The type of disposable you choose CAN make a huge difference.)
When to stop using disposables if you get into that rhythm and feel too comfortable with them? Stop using them when you feel guilty about using them. Stop using them when you notice baby is starting to feel comfortable peeing in them (ie: doesn't mind at all). Stop using them when baby stops signaling well in them.
When to stop using diapers altogether
In fact, no matter which backup you choose, when baby begins to feel comfortable in them and stop signaling (or you guys get way off track), that is exactly when to (1) change back-ups or (2) stop using diapers altogether.
I've heard too many stories from people in our EC circles where the mom said "I should have stopped using diapers at about 12 or 13 months, but I waited til 17 months to be a little more child-led. It was a huge mistake and I am certain that this is why she is resisting, regressing, and not wanting to keep her pants dry."
In 1957...92% of babies were toilet trained in the US by 18 months (not an average...this is when this many babies were completely done with the whole process).
So it is wise to give up diapers between 12-18 months, at the very latest, and to begin working on wrap up after baby begins to walk well on her own.
Okay so let's get back to ages now.
3. Babywearing as a "back-up"
One more thing I'd like to note about the newborn age is that in remote civilizations and intact cultures, most babies are worn in a baby carrier (this is my fave) for the first 3 months or so, during the majority of the day.
When laid on the ground, they are free to move and wriggle and find their mobility, themselves (a concept championed by Montessori). But during most of the day they are engaging with mother or father's world thru being in-arms/in-carrier.
This is great for EC! You will either get a squirmy, fussy baby signal or a warm/wet sensation (ghost pee) as a signal to let baby out of the carrier and offer the potty (point and shoot).
If you're babywearing a lot of the day, or during an outing, or around the house, you can choose to have your baby in a back-up or not - you are less likely to have misses, so consider this option if it works for you.
Again, if a baby freely pees without a signal in *any* backup, it's probably time to change that backup to something more effective.
Which back-up to use for NEWBORN babies at night
For newborns at night, you'll typically want to use the same thing you used during the day. I will explain by sharing examples from my own children.
With my first, I had the cloth diaper service, so he slept in cloth. I also co-slept with him and pottied him/nursed him at every wake-up - approximately every 2 hours for 2 years - so I probably caught 50/50 in the nighttime until he moved to his own bed at 24 months.
After the 3 months of cloth diaper service ended, I used a hemp/cotton prefold folded into 3rds inside a wool diaper cover. I never experienced leaks.
He was dry at night by 26 months.
With my 4 youngest babies, I've chosen to use a (now biodegradable Dyper) disposable diaper backup at night. Why? To help them sleep better.
You see, with these 4, I chose to "sleep train" - which basically means to teach them how to connect their sleep cycles. It has ranged from sitting in the room and patting every 2 or 3 minutes to just letting them fuss for 1 or 2 minutes before finding their sleep, to not focusing on it at all and just putting baby to bed in a different room.
I co-slept with these 4 babies for the first 4 months and then moved them into their own floor bed or crib in a separate room, with a baby monitor, and began to teach them how to sleep. This was a great choice for us.
How did I do it? Well, I used a custom sleep training plan from the Baby Sleep Site. It is not CIO (cry-it-out) and it really did serve to improve these 4 babies' moods and daytime energy levels. I would recommend using the sleep teaching methods found at the BSS - custom or quick version - if you feel you need it. With my youngest, I needed help right at 3 weeks old! I was a MESS! Full permission granted.
But, yes, disposables did help with sleep training - and often my babies came up dry despite the back-up. For me, it worked.
My three middle children were dry at night at 26 months, 30 months, and 28 months.
So, the nighttime back-up choice for a newborn, in my unscientific experience, generally does not impact the length of time to night dryness. Our 100,000s of readers have shown similar results.
What about nighttime elimination communication, then?
As for nighttime EC, I did do it with all 5 of my babies but for the last 4 of my children I did this: for the first 3 months while they were newborns and in need of highly-extra-special-responsive baby care, 24/7, I did nighttime EC all night while cosleeping, then I moved them into a crib in the room or a floor bed at 3 or 4 months old, and all the while used disposables at night with them to help them sleep. Again, often they awoke dry. If they woke in the night, I'd potty first, then nurse, then we'd all go back to sleep.
(Nighttime EC is covered in-depth in my book.)
Newborn back-up summary
In conclusion, using cloth diapers with a newborn, 24/7, is best to keep baby sensitive - and to keep YOU motivated to wrap it up at earlier and earlier ages. However, use what makes the most sense for you, knowing that - if you use sposies - you'll probably cut your disposable diaper usage down to 1/3 of what those who do conventional potty training use...so it's still a big win. Especially if you go biodegradable!
The best EC back-ups for MOBILE babies
When baby begins to roll over around 4 months of age, which marks the beginning of mobility, she will often stop signaling as strongly. Alternatively, the signal changes or becomes more subtle, and baby begins to focus all efforts on getting that basic roll over (and roll back the other way) developmental task.
During that time we support baby's budding mobility by giving diaper-free time as often as possible.
But, wait! What is diaper-free time?
I like to do diaper-free time with my Tiny Trainers line of training pants, which come in size 6 months and up. You can see when they are wet and change and offer the potty immediately - and they allow ultra-mobility and flexibility to support your baby in tackling this mobility task.
During other times when you're more distracted or diaper-free time is inconvenient (ie: when you are cooking, or on an outing, or when baby is in childcare, or while baby is napping), you can use a diaper back-up of your choice.
Again, use the overall guideline of whatever works best. Switching back-ups at different times does not confuse the child, but I would suggest being consistent with the times you use a certain back-up so baby can learn the routine.
If your baby is poop trained and does well in training pants, you can exclusively use them as early as 5 months of age - with no diapers from then on! I tried trainers with my first baby off and on (except there were not 100% cotton training pants in his size at that time), but I have to share that...
...some of my readers have completely ditched diapers at 5 months old because they were able to stay stress-free and calm during misses, were able to be very responsive to their babies, and had wood floors (!) so cleanup was fairly easy as well. They also had my Tiny Trainers which truly make a difference in completely ditching diapers at this young age.
The "con" to this is that if you have a poop miss, it is a crazy messy cleanup. If you have a full pee miss, it is often hard to pull the wet training pants off (kind of like pulling a wet bathing suit off a child).
I've developed a new product, TinyUps, that solves part of this latter conundrum: they have a bamboo fleece lining and 3 snaps on the sides, so removing them is super easy. You can pair them over Tiny Trainers or Tiny Undies, or you can use them solo (although they do not catch much of a pee and will leak with no additional trainers/undies inside, they are fantastic for just being around the home with a poop-trained baby).
One final note on the "rolling" task - sometimes you may think that baby is resisting the potty during the 3-5 month range, but in fact baby is trying on the movement of "rolling" as his primary developmental task...even when being placed on the potty! It's not resistance...it's an ineffective effort at practicing the roll. :)
Also, a baby in this pre-mobile stage, in any natural environment where there are no diapers or much clothing, would just pee and roll away from the pee. Newborns even do this when they "crawl" in the bed while sleeping, after waking slightly to pee. Human instincts are so strong. And, thus, signaling comes to a halt with most 4 months old babies.
Which leads to the next developmental task: sitting and crawling.
Sitting and crawling
First know that:
you will likely have more misses during this phase, as baby is on the move, developing rapidly, and in a natural environment would not longer need your assistance to pee in an appropriate place.
When your baby begins sitting unassisted (or trying to do so), there may be a bit of distraction. This is their developmental focus at the moment, and they become single-focused on it.
Again, think about it: in a natural environment, baby could pee and then move to the side if sitting or trying to sit, so many do not signal because why would they need your help at this stage? They can do it themselves (again, IF in a natural environment with no bottoms on and warm weather out).
So, the backup will need to be adjusted (or understood) accordingly.
They can also begin to poop or pee when in the high chair during this stage (due to the familiar sitting position, the relaxation, the time of day), so I will use a back-up there because it is not fun to clean that up in a sanitary food-serving environment! :)
This behavior does pass, and in our family we have come to enjoy the hilarious rushing of the baby to the potty after he begins to bear down in his high chair:
Wait! We say as we rush him to the potty to help him finish there (which he often does - 1/2 or 3/4 catch, and lately a full catch).
It's ok to pause mealtime for a potty break, especially when it's for a poop, just be sure you have a hand towel nearby to clean up hands and face before you whisk baby off to the potty.
More on crawling
With my first, EC did take a small backslide during the week when he was learning to crawl (belly off the ground). We had the only week of poop misses in his entire babyhood: during that week.
I responded by being more vigilant and staying calm, staying the course, and within a week we were back on track. We were using cloth diapers at home...and we stayed with it.
When your baby begins crawling, or is working on that developmental task, misses can substantially increase. At these times it's important to dress baby in a back-up that keeps you calm and continues to teach your baby.
How to stay calm? Just by remember this: stick with it, and it will pass.
During this time we often change to a toilet seat reducer. Babies escaping mini potties? Not fun. Not productive. Very frustrating, indeed.
Pulling up to standing
Then we get into pulling up to standing position. At this time (or maybe before if you're lucky), baby often begins resisting diaper changes. In fact, way back at rolling, baby probably was already "resisting" diaper changes by wanting to roll instead. It is almost reflexive.
At this point it is helpful to begin teaching baby to sit on the potty by placing it behind her legs and asking her to sit while she is pulling up or standing unassisted, balancing.
Back-ups at the pulling up to standing and "creeping" along furniture (and you) stage should again be whatever is most effective on the most levels (see the overall guidelines again).
However, if you're having a major diaper-changing war at this age, you can change to Tiny Trainers or TinyUps cloth pullup covers (or a combination of both) and have a much easier time changing baby standing up. Use a cover, like my TinyUps, if you wish to also protect the pants, or use TinyUps solo if you're just around the house and it works for you.
Pair either with some BabyLeggings (use my code GDF16 for 5 free pair of legwarmers!) and maybe some socks or booties like these by Hudson...and baby will stay warm, you will see when she's wet, and you can change her standing up.
I definitely recommend Tiny Trainers and TinyUps at this age IF your baby is mostly poop-trained, or if you know her poop timing well enough. Often the trainers will enhance signaling and learning, dramatically...and will keep you more aware of signals (because there is more at stake!).
If you are cloth diapering at this time, you can use a sumo-style cloth diaper back-up - which is simply a tri-folded toddler-sized prefold cloth diaper or insert which is held in place with a diaper belt. This is good for observation time (get a log here), getting back on track, and easy stand-up diaper changes while you both are learning (or feeling lazy). I like to use a burp cloth instead of a cloth diaper, held in place with a diaper belt, because it is much easier to see when baby is wet. Your choice!
During all this, if baby is cutting a new tooth, is ill or becoming sick, or anything else is changing inside her body or outside in her environment, potty behaviors may change. Perhaps an increase in misses, perhaps resistance to pottying, perhaps poop misses where before you never had 'em, and perhaps you catch way more (diarrhea especially) because baby is sick.
Bottom line: bodily and environmental changes affect EC, and vice versa, and you should adapt your back-up choice to whatever works best in these situations, as they arise...IF needed.
(And you can totally wait until baby is walking to change to a cloth backup or no backup at all - it's all good.)
When baby is about to start walking, things can either get better or worse. Again, remember that it's temporary. And it's all part of the learning.
And know this:
the backup for this brief pre-walking time is not as important as the backup you choose once walking has been mastered.
It is developmentally inappropriate to change a baby's diaper laying down at this stage of walking mastery, per the Montessori school of thought. I would have to agree (because: the diaper struggles at this age!).
Once baby is walking, change him standing up, and begin to engage him in the process of changing the bottoms when they are wet.
At this stage it is not important how many wet bottoms you go through per day. In fact, I would keep 18 pair of Tiny Trainers and/or 8 pair of TinyUps in your child's wardrobe at all times so you do not stress about running out.
What IS important is the learning that is accelerated through using a completely cloth, 100% cotton back-up. Let's take some advice from one of our Go Diaper Free Certified Coaches in Colorado who is an AMI Montessori educator. Elizabeth has experienced first-hand in her classrooms that:
using *only* cotton training pants starting at age 12 months (or earlier, if walking earlier) enables the child to learn much more quickly and deeply than using a disposable diaper or waterproof (PUL-lined) training pants.
I have observed the same.
Another option that I've tried upon walking mastery is split pants and/or baby chaps. They are great IF your child squats - on a potty or outdoors - when they need to go (not so great for when they stand!). Here's a pic of some split pants I made that my first son wore abroad in Thailand:
In any case, if you aren't using split pants/chaps and if you don't want to move from diapers to trainers, consider moving from diapers to undies. Let me explain.
Moving directly from diapers to undies
If you find that Tiny Trainers/TinyUps don't work for you (ie: your baby pees in the training pants all the time and does not signal or make an effort to go to the toilet, or you are just not on the right timing and missing every single pee and poo, AND it is stressing you out - again, it may not be an issue as they are learning - but you, the parent, are stressed out), then moving to Tiny Undies would be advisable. In this case it is likely that the training pants feel too similar to diapers, and making a move to something that does not feel like a diaper is a good choice.
In any case, I would definitely encourage switching your daytime back-up to training pants upon walking mastery, for sure, and earlier if you have a good handle on poop catches or at least poop timing.
Again, to protect pants, use TinyUps cloth pull-up covers over the Tiny Trainers. They will not hinder the learning process.
To protect the floor, often Tiny Trainers alone are enough, but all babies differ. I've noticed that babies pee straight thru Gerber training pants because they are subpar quality and have a polyester core that is terribly in-absorbent.
You can also double-up training pants for extra protection, but buy one set of trainers two sizes up in this case so baby is still comfortable. However, if you are using this thick of a training pant, you may want to consider working on your EC practice so you don't have such big misses.
To recap, some babies will move straight to Tiny Undies upon walking mastery and will do great. My second (our daughter) did exactly this at 13 months old. By 15 months she was telling us every single time she had to pee or poop. We did terrible at EC from months 4-8 with her, got back on track and switched to a cloth diaper backup at 8 months, ditched diapers and went to Tiny Undies at 13 months, and by 15 months were completely graduated. Again, undies feel like the opposite of diapers and will be very affective with some children.
When on outings, you can cover Tiny Undies or Tiny Trainers with TinyUps cloth covers to protect the pants/carseat while out and about. You can also use a biodegradable disposable backup and either do EC on outings or wait until you're home again.
At home when you're busy
If you're using just undies or commando at home, and you've got to make dinner or are otherwise unable to quickly respond to your baby, temporarily use a pair of Tiny Trainers or TinyUps so you don't teach baby to pee on the floor (and don't have to clean up). You're not using this thicker back-up as a toilet, but as a little more protection during a time when you're not as available.
When to move to undies, full-time
No matter how you get there, moving to Tiny Undies by 15-18 months is advisable. If you don't have luck with it, 2-3 weeks in pants-only ("commando"), or without pants, around the house can be very effective as a transition into full-time undies.
Worst-case? Tiny Trainers by 15-18 months with NO more daytime diapers. :)
Seriously! Most parents regret using daytime diapers past 14 or 15 months of age...in retrospect they realize they missed some sort of invisible window, making EC wrap-up that much harder. If you're here before that age, take their advice. If you're here after 18 months, check out my potty training resource.
Naked at home?
Naked also counts as a back-up, but only if it works. :) (Learn how to do diaper-free time responsibly with my popular EC book.)
If you do well without bottoms at all, at home, then do it for as long as you need to! If it works, and your child uses the potty voluntarily when bottom-less, do it. It will not permanently stay that way or harm the process.
When you feel it is time to start using pants, teach your child how to push them down and pull them up. Have an older child demonstrate, use the instructions in my books, or use the videos that my daughter made for your child, found in my potty training book private book owners' website.
IF your child pees wherever, whenever, I do not advise bottomless at home. In that case, review the Responsible Diaper-free Time section in my Go Diaper Free book, or, if you've really got a problem, do a potty training experience with my other book and get the idea across, very clearly and gently...physically...that all pee goes in the potty, every time.
But, if you have a child like my 3rd, Cooper, you may want to use Tiny Trainers much, much longer. We took him out of diapers at 17 months and then moved him into Tiny Undies. He is soooo lax and laid back. However. I *would have* ditched diapers with him sooner, I was just too overwhelmed with 3 kids, and being pregnant - you do what you can.
In undies, Cooper peed thru them all the time and it drove us nutso. So we switched to Tiny Trainers and put a cloth diaper cover over them (my TinyUps weren't out yet) and sent him to preschool like this, with instructions for the teacher on how to potty him - and 3 extra sets of trainers and pants and socks in a wet/dry bag, just in case. We used Tiny Trainers until about 25 months with him.
Had I ditched diapers around 12-13 months with Cooper, I know we would have had an advantage. With my 4th baby, Branson, we actually learned from our experience with Cooper and ditched diapers at 12 months old, and I have to say that it was definitely the right move. It gave us no other choice but to work on wrap-up! It was great.
But...case in point, you do what you can with what resources you've got at your disposal - with Cooper I was under-resourced. With Branson I was resourced. It's all good.
So the above are some examples of what you can do, too. I hope you found them helpful.
Nighttime back-ups over the course of babyhood
For nighttime EC, we again have the overall guideline:
use whichever back-up works best for this child (and this family) going through this milestone at that time.
During growth spurts and developmental leaps, babies really need their sleep. The unfortunate truth is that EC can disturb sleep during this time, as can wetness (not all the time, not all babies, but some of them).
So, your back-up for nighttime EC can and will change over time, as well as whether you potty your baby at night...depending on what your baby is going through.
Use what works, even if it doesn't feel like EC. No guilt. We all do what we can.
Here are some examples from my own babies of our nighttime backups from birth:
•With my first I used cloth at night 0-4 months, 5-8 months used disposables at night, 8-26 months used cloth (wool cover with hemp/cotton prefold) at night, then ended it all with one night naked in a footless fleece pajama.
•With my 2nd I used Seventh Generation disposable diapers at night her babyhood up until she was dry at night at 26 months (same time as my first).
•With my 3rd we used Seventh Generation diapers until 22 months when we switched to commando because he was dry all night, but that backfired. He began having nighttime accidents again, so at 25 months we put him back in 7th Gen. And they were dry every night once more. (Ironic?) At 26 months we put him in a TinyUps cloth pullup cover with nothing under it, and around 32 months that went away completely and he has slept commando or in undies/pants ever since.
•With my 4th, we used a Seventh Gen disposable at night until he turned 2, at which time we were fortunate to discover biodegradable Dypers. He still wears those at night now at 27 months old, but they are dry 99% of the time. Without them he pees the bed. (Ironic?) This works for us, and we re-use a lot of diapers.
•With my 5th and final baby, we use Dyper biodegradable diapers as a back-up at night. She typically wakes up dry and I hear her in the other room over the monitor, I go to her, potty her over the sink in their room (it's a farmhouse so the sink is in the bedroom!), running water if need be to relax her, then I nurse her back to sleep. She usually wakes wet in the final morning wakeup at 7am, but she'll also usually pee after I nurse her. For us the Dyper backup has been a really great tool, and we re-use a lot of them at night.
Two examples of our daytime back-ups
With our 4th baby, Branson, we did this: at 12 months he mastered walking, I changed him to a daytime back-up of a TinyUps cloth pull-up cover, below his pants, at home. On outings, like waiting in the car line for my 2nd grader with 3 kids en tow (hopefully napping), I used a disposable. He is now 27 months old and usually rolls commando, pants-only, even at preschool. He can remove and replace his own pants this way and he is completely reliable in this back-up.
With our 8th month old, our 5th baby Twyla, we typically use (and re-use) Dyper biodegradable diapers day and night, and at times we do diaper-free naked time, sometimes Tiny Trainers, and sometimes cloth diapers. When she begins walking we are going to ditch awake-time diapers completely and move straight to Tiny Undies/Tiny Trainers, covering with TinyUps at preschool.
Now let's run through some Q+A around backups
What are my daytime backup options, again? Cloth diaper, sumo-style cloth diaper, biodegradable disposable diaper (Dyper is my recommendation), Tiny Trainers or Tiny Undies (with or without a cloth pullup or snapped cover), commando, or pantsless for a little bit (as a strategy).
When can I stop using daytime diapers? When you and your baby are reliable with poops ("poop-trained") - or you think ditching them will seal the deal with poop - and/or when YOU (the parent) are finished with using diapers. This could range from 5 months to 20 months. I suggest doing this by 14 months old in the daytime. See podcast #41.
When can I stop using nighttime diapers? When your baby is coming up dry, or when you are ready to night potty train which usually looks like waking baby for one dream pee around 10pm-12am at night, and baby is remaining dry til the morning. This could range from 14-36 months.
What to use after daytime diapers? Tiny Trainers or Tiny Undies, with or without a cloth pull-up cover like TinyUps, or go commando or pantsless as a transition to trainers or undies if need be. This typically goes: trainers when walking, undies a few months after or if trainers aren't effective, possibly with a commando stint in between if you need a transition phase.
What to use after nighttime diapers? Tiny Trainers or Tiny Undies (with or without a pullup or snap cloth cover), fleece footed pajamas (naked or undies or trainers inside), commando, or naked are your choices.
What to use during potty training? Tiny Undies - they feel the least like diapers and are easy to pull up and push off. Get the LEARN line if you want the type of Tiny Undies I've made that help your child self-dress in an average of 10 seconds...they have visual elements that help baby "do it myself."
When to start using Trainers? When you need an extra layer of protection (ie: you're busy, you're out and about, you're learning your baby or vice versa, baby is sleeping, baby is still having too many misses/accidents for your sanity, to protect floors/pants/etc, for use at daycare/preschool.). As early as during diaper-free observation time with a newly mobile or newborn baby, when poop-trained (or to help poop-train) with a mobile baby or toddler, when baby is pulling to standing/creeping, when baby walks well and is past that intense developmental milestone, ready to learn.
When to start using Undies? Same as with trainers, but when you don't need that extra layer of protection, or when you think it will intensify the learning process (cause and effect!) and benefit baby by feeling less like a diaper, and when you are done with potty training. (from trainers, above): As early as during diaper-free observation time with a newly mobile or newborn baby, when poop-trained (or to help poop-train) with a mobile baby or toddler, when baby is pulling to standing/creeping, when baby walks well and is past that intense developmental milestone, ready to learn.
When to start wrapping up EC? When baby is walking well, begin wrapping it up (obviously, it's going to be gradual). So, when baby begins walking, start to equip her with the skills to take over and be independent. This is covered deeply in my EC book and my Wrapping Up EC minicourse.
When to use a waterproof cover over trainers or undies? When your child is in another person's care and isn't completely telling everyone they need to go yet (like daycare, preschool, Grandma's house), when you are on an outing, when you are busy and you don't want to have to change pants, socks, shoes, and training pants (my trainers do hold a lot of pee, but the pants always get wet), when it's essential/ much more convenient to have a cover over the trainers or undies.
When not to use a waterproof cover over trainers or undies? When you want your child (and you) to get the best learning possible. From 12 months and over, using trainers during the day, at home, it is best for there not to be a cover...or you can use the cover without the trainers or undies. Whatever works.
When to have your baby help change wet or soiled bottoms? As soon as the child is able, usually around 10 months of age, have him or her put the wet ones into a bin and try to pull dry ones on. Use a low bench for self-dressing. Invest in LEARN trainers or LEARN undies to encourage self-dressing. Babies can help much sooner than you'd think! Full instructions in my EC book and my potty training book.
How do you pack for daycare after you switch to cloth or trainers or undies? Put at least 3 of your backup of choice, plus one extra snapping or pullup cloth cover, plus a gallon-sized ziploc bag, plus 2 pair extra socks and 3 pair extra pants, into one of my wet-dry bags (the front pocket) and ask your caregiver to put any wet ones in the larger back pocket of the bag if necessary, plus provide a toilet seat or mini potty if they need one. Learn more in this post about going to daycare/preschool diaper-free.
Supplementary resources for all of these transitions:
Which back-up do you use? Anything I've missed? What works for you and your baby, currently?
I look forward to hearing your comments, below. xx Andrea