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I’m getting a divorce (and how divorce can affect potty training and EC)

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I am getting a divorce. Surprise! But...I really want you to be happy for us because we are certain it’s the perfect decision for our family.

Call it conscious uncoupling if you want - it’s all good.

But...Andrea, why are you sharing this with us today? What does divorce have to do with EC??

I’m sharing about my divorce today to connect with you in a real way, be witnessed by our beautiful community, address how YOU might ground your potty routines in the midst of a big transition, and to share what I’m calling into my life now (and ask for your prayers and blessings on it).

I made a fun FAQ for our divorce to sort of address it in a humorous way, because I am a student of improv acting and I just can’t help but bring joy to something that is the RIGHT thing for both of us and our children.

So, let’s dive into…

Andrea’s Divorce FAQ

Q: What does an FAQ on your divorce have to do with elimination communication?

A: To squash rumors and promote connection in our community, I have to be transparent with you. And you might have questions about things as I move on in my life (like where the heck did “that guy” go...or, perhaps in the future, who’s “that new guy” in your Instagram feed LOL).

Q: What does divorce have to do with EC or potty training?

A: Regarding EC, any time any of you go through a major life transition, potty symptoms can arise! Moving, illness, job change, divorce. These are the biggies.

I want to take this opportunity to discuss how divorce can affect potty training and elimination communication.

To keep Twyla, now 2 1/2 and diaper-free since 13 months day, 17 months night, on track with her potty habits during this separation, divorce, and newness of single living...I am checking MY OWN ENERGY and vibe and ensuring that I am calm and centered, every single day, and that when I get out of whack, I get centered right quick again.

I am also calling in support during stressful times of the day - soon-to-be-ex-husband is coming over morning and night to help me with the 5 kiddos.

The more I am centered, and supported, the less likely potty issues are to arise. I hope this models hope for those of you who are also going thru major life transitions - it will be okay! Stay the course! Strengthen you and your own foundation, and all will be well in potty land.
Now, back to our FAQ!

Q: Aren’t you guys a power couple?

A: If by power you mean nuclear combustion, then yes.

Q: But I thought you guys were happily married?

A: Things are usually never what they seem. Take world events starting in March 2020, continuing thru November 2020 and early January 2021, and I think you’ll know what I mean.

(Also, check my feed. Hubs hasn’t shown up there very much lately. 1+1=2 in this case!)

Q: Is it amicable?

A: Yes, very

Q: Is it mutual?

A: Yes, very

Q: Whose fault is it?

A: Depends on who you ask! 😆 Seriously, though, it’s completely mutual.

Q: Who’s moving out?

A: David

Q: Where will the kids live?

A: With Andrea. We were both raised in broken families and had to go back and forth between homes. We don’t want that for our children.

Q: Where will he go?!

A: He’s going to build a concrete home into the landscape. Ahem, a bunker. Got land? He’s also gonna visit the kids a ton so that they have a sense of consistency and connection with him.

Q: Are you still going to have time to do this podcast, blog, YouTube channel, make courses, write books, make undies...all the things you do for our EC community?

A: Yes! I’ve always done all this by myself, and I’ve now got an amazing team of women around the world who help me support y’all at Go Diaper Free, Tiny Undies, and MamaWorx. I have called in a lot of support. I continue to work just 3 hours per day while my amazing part-time nanny oversees the kids’ reading and nap times. The rest of the time I am blessed to be with my children, even when it’s totally exhausting and crazy-time. However. Things are already even BETTER than before because I am more healthy, happy, and unencumbered by my former “6th child.” LOL. Some of you know what I mean, maybe.

Q: Will the kids be okay?

andrea-olson-and-her-5-kids

A: Yes

Q: Are you sure?

A: Yes. My mother stayed with my father way longer than was healthy - for her or us. I would have rather had a poor mom than an unhappy one. And, yeah...I always secretly blamed myself for her unhappiness. That’s a burden I do not want my children to carry like I did.

Q: How can I support you thru this?

A: If you’re in Asheville, come to my monthly ladies tea parties. If not, a simple prayer will suffice! You can also comment below with anything positive or encouraging or uplifting (please, no Debbie Downers! I am certain and clear about this super-positive, healthy decision.)

Q: Can I convince you guys to stay together?

A: No

Q: Can I give you puppies, dance shoes, money, jewelry, essential oils, to stay together?

A: No

Q: But wait! We’re in the middle of a pandemic and riots and the world is falling apart! Shouldn’t you just wait a little bit?

A: I would definitely agree that we are in the middle of crazy times. I have VERY strong opinions about this period of time (don’t get me started about the TRUTH), and believe that we are not getting the full picture. That said, I am physically and emotionally prepared to live without a man for the time being. (Hello, 2A.) I have neighbors and people who care about me and, btw, David isn’t exactly disappearing. We will be fine.

My mental health and that of my children is way more important than “what-if’s,” ya know?

Q: Are you sure you’ve tried everything?

A: Yes. When David chose for the 2nd time in 4 months to not show up for couples therapy, my decision was crystal clear. Without MUTUAL GROWTH as a couple, there is no hope, IMHO. It takes work from both people.

Remember back when I told you about Love + Respect? Well, I read the book, did alllll the work by myself, and he never reciprocated with his own work on himself...leaving me feeling unmet. I became exhausted. Not getting your needs met in any relationship, esp a toxic one such as ours, is not good!

Q: Are you ever gonna get remarried?

A: My hope is to be blessed with a forever-husband (you know, like a furever friend adopted from the pound!) who is kind, gentle, growth-oriented, and who loves my children and is excited to share life with us. For that, yes, I would get remarried in a heartbeat.

Q: Are you gonna have more babies?

A: God-willing.

Q: Can I say congratulations to you?

A: Yes. I really want you to be happy for us because we are happy with our decision.

What I’m calling in

I am calling in kindness, love, and simplicity.

I’d like to someday have a trustworthy, amazing, sweet husband.

If possible, God-willing, and time-willing (geez I’m 42!), I’d love another baby.

We’ll see what happens.

Please say a prayer or light a candle or sing a song for me today...for ease and grace, love and simplicity, support and happiness. Thank you.

Oh! And, what I’m doing to prevent another toxic relationship...

It all starts with ME. We write the handbook on how others treat us. I learned that from Terri Cole, Author of Boundary Boss (OMG, get a copy!).

Some of you know that I’ve gone through, not one!, but two of these types of relationships and had a total of 5 children between the two of them. What am I doing to keep this from happening again? To stop attracting a certain kind of destructive relationship?

I am working on boundaries. Check out Boundary Boss, the new book, if you haven’t seen it yet. For those of you who give, give, give, often to the wrong person, often for far too long, without protecting yourselves and your sacred space….this one’s for YOU! It’s never too late to learn about boundaries, am-I-right?

Anywho. Thanks for listening. If you have words of encouragement or congratulations for me and David, please post them in the comments below.

And pls keep them positive. I am 100% clear about this decision. Protecting and loving myself is my path. Getting out of a toxic situation, one where I’ve tried everything, because I know deep inside my heart that I AM WORTH IT.

❤️ Andrea

PS - here’s the video version of this episode in case you prefer to YouTube it. ;)

Andrea Olson

About Andrea Olson

I'm Andrea and I spend most of my time with my husband and 5 children (newborn to 8 years old) and the rest of my time teaching other new parents how to do Elimination Communication with their 0-18 month babies. I love what I do and try to make a difference in one baby or parent's life every single day. (And I love, love, love, mango gelato.)

91 Comments

  1. Avatar Hilary on June 15, 2021 at 6:18 am

    Very proud of you for making this decision for you and your kiddos. My parents also stayed together until I was 18 and my sibs were 16 (triplets) even though they had wanted to get a divorce when the triplets were toddlers. It was awful and had a major negative impact on my relationships with both my parents when all was said and done. Perhaps some people may see divorce as always a negative, but I share your experience of being a kid stuck between two very, very unhappy adults and I totally understand how this is a moment to celebrate and rejoice you setting boundaries that will lead to a healthier, happier life for all of you. Congratulations!!

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:42 am

      Thank you!!!

      Yes, divorce isn’t just about what is best for the adults, but also for the kids. I appreciate you sharing your story so others understand mine more as well. ❤️

  2. Avatar Rachel Allen on June 15, 2021 at 6:19 am

    It’s lovely how positive you are. You and David have clearly made the decision you feel is best for you and your family. It’s wonderful how you’ve really thought it through and planned for the least negative disruption to your children’s lives. What an uplifting positive example for others considering or going through a divorce. I wish you and your family all the very best for your new ‘normal’. :)

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:44 am

      Exactly! We have thought it through with our kids in our hearts and mind. Thank you for your support during this time. We can all use extra wishes as we process, and adjust to the new ‘normal’. ❤️

  3. Avatar Elaine on June 15, 2021 at 6:27 am

    I am sending prayers for joy, peace and ease during this time and for love. May you all be blessed in this transition. May you all be safe and well and flourish, thrive and grow.
    Thank you for sharing this information and normalizing/de-stigmatizing something that is a very real, but often not spoken of part of our lives. I really appreciate your honesty and openness. You are so courageous!

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:45 am

      Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Your kind words are very much appreciated. 💖💖

  4. Avatar Eboni on June 15, 2021 at 6:30 am

    Good morning, Thank you for your openness and honesty. I wish you and your family all the love, peace, and happiness possible. Hugs and prayers from MD! – Signed a solo (and usually strong, almost always happy, definitely always tired 😄) parent

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:47 am

      You are very welcome! ❤️

      May love, peace, and happiness be with you and yours also.

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:47 am

      You are very welcome! ❤️

      May love, peace, and happiness be with you and yours also. 🤗

  5. Avatar Sarita on June 15, 2021 at 6:31 am

    Dear Andrea, I was sad to hear this news because of all the challenges you and your family had togo through. However, at the same time I am happy for you and so proud of you. I think you are amazing. God bless you and your family xoxo

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:49 am

      Thank You! The decision was certainly not the easiest, but we are doing what is the best for us and our kids. I appreciate your support and understanding. ❤️

  6. Avatar Tamar on June 15, 2021 at 6:37 am

    Thank you for sharing. I’m happy for you that you made the right decision for you and your family. I’m sure a heavy weight has been lifted off your shoulders now that the decision has been made. This will make moving forward easier.
    Good luck!

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:49 am

      So true! Thank you! ❤️

  7. Avatar M on June 15, 2021 at 6:38 am

    The timing of this post is serendipitous, as the last week I have decided to confront my own uncomfortable truth. I love how you frame this in the context of maintaining consistency for the children. Keeping potty on track is a very stable, considerate thing to do for our little ones 😊

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:52 am

      I hope your own uncomfortable truth finds the correct solution for you and those involved. Never fun to confront things that aren’t comfortable for us, though they often make us stronger in the end.

      Yes, consistency during times of change helps immensely. ❤️

  8. Avatar Imana Azeez on June 15, 2021 at 6:38 am

    Reading this reminds me of wgen I tell people I’m divorced and they say “I’m sorry.” My reply is “I’m not. ” staying in a toxic relationship is so bad on our mental, physical and emotional health. Women really get it worse as we are forced to “fake it” seeing our kids and continue most of not all the child-rearing. You’ll do fine. Send positive growth and prayers your way.

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:53 am

      Absolutely! Thank you for your prayers, and support. Moving forward, and only growing. 😊

  9. Avatar sindy on June 15, 2021 at 6:50 am

    Andrea,

    I have been following your blog for years and I really really love all your ideas, philosophy, and everything! I truly believe in EC too. I myself have 2 kids and I do EC for both. My mother did EC with me since I was born. She always told us about this and said I should do this to my kids. But I thought she was crazy until one day I came to your blog and realized that EC is possible.

    To be honest I was shocked to learn about your divorce and so I read your full article. I am so sorry for all of this. I know it is the best decision for everything but I still feel sad to learn about this. I know you will be all good. You are such a strong woman. I myself is a blogger as well and understand how much work and effort it takes to make an online business. My full respect! And with 5 kids you still achieve all of this is really impressive.

    I wish you all the best. And you are right. If it is not the right person, better leave sooner than later!

    Best wishes,
    Sindy

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 1:57 am

      Sindy, thank you so much for your understanding and support!!

  10. Avatar Rachel McHugh on June 15, 2021 at 6:51 am

    So proud of you Andrea!!! 10000000%%% excellent decisions all round – to leave an unhealthy relationship so you can be a better and happier person and parent, and great decision to be transparent about it. Sending lots of love and hope as you explore your own previous hindrances and setting boundaries 💕💕💕

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:01 am

      Thank you very much!

      We have to live our truths and live what we preach. I look forward to exploring those previous hindrances and getting better about setting boundaries in all areas of my life. ❤️

  11. Avatar Fatimah on June 15, 2021 at 7:08 am

    All the best Andrea! Wishing you a happy future !

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:02 am

      Thank you! 😁

  12. Avatar Sarah on June 15, 2021 at 7:23 am

    It absolutely takes 2 to make a marriage work, a LOT of hard work. I’m sorry you’ve been putting in so much effort and not getting anything out of it. You deserve someone who works just as hard as you, and has the same principles and the same goals. Praying for you during this time. I know godiaperfree is one of your babies, but everyone will understand if the content slows down during this transition. Take care of yourself xx

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:03 am

      Thank you! You are right, GoDiaperFree is one of my babies, yet just like having consistency for our little ones during times like this, so too is it important to have it in mine. 😉😊

  13. Avatar Amanda on June 15, 2021 at 7:25 am

    Congratulations! I know you put much thought into this and it is not a spur of the moment decision. I wish you and your family happiness, health, and growth!

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:04 am

      Thank you for your well wishes and kind words. 💕

  14. Avatar D on June 15, 2021 at 7:27 am

    <3 congratulations on a brighter and more fulfilling future, Andrea! And also knowing what you want and going for it full steam. Will be thinking of you and family and sending love, encouragement and all the good vibes!

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:04 am

      Thank you! I appreciate your support and understanding. ❤️

  15. Avatar Laura on June 15, 2021 at 7:42 am

    Congratulations! Wishing you lots of future happiness! You are stronger than I ❤️

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:07 am

      Thank you! I am sure you are stronger that you think you are. Ultimately, strength comes from within, and it start by confronting our fears. 💕

  16. Avatar Alice on June 15, 2021 at 7:43 am

    Hi Andrea, sounds like you and your husband are making this decision with your heads screwed on and I wish you and all your kids the best. Just wanted to share, my parents split up amicably and I moved between their homes, pretty much alternating nights (they lived very near each other) and it was a very positive experience for me. Both parents had half the week to do their adult things (both boring and fun!) And my sister and I got the best of them on the nights we were at their homes because they never needed to split themselves in two and only give us half their attention. Just wanted to say this to let you know it doesn’t need to be “broken homes” as you put it, your kids can benefit from two amazing focused parents. Really hope this is an interesting perspective and good luck and good thoughts to you all x

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:09 am

      Thank you for sharing your story, and for your support!

      Although, I know this can be the case, it is always reassuring to hear it from others whom have experienced first hand.❤️

  17. Avatar Holly on June 15, 2021 at 8:06 am

    Wow Andrea! I wish you all the best in this new chapter of your life. Your strength and positivity and that of those around you will help you through this transition. Take care!

  18. Avatar KC on June 15, 2021 at 8:38 am

    Andrea, I am going through almost the exact same thing. Four kids with my first husband, he started an affair while I was still pregnant with the last and became really negative and condescending towards me for months before he started demanding divorce. I was desperate to stay together, then the truth came out and I was still holding on… but with some work and introspection seeing the same- issues with my own boundaries, having a “5th child” in my case, not loving and standing up for myself enough, etc etc and this divorce is the best decision for us too. It does sound like David is thinking about the kids still and what is best for them. I am happy for you to have found a more liberating and empowering path for yourself.

    Thank you for sharing and being the super-mama that you are.
    Cheers to finding our boundaries and new exciting futures.

    Appreciate you ❤️

  19. Avatar Carlie on June 15, 2021 at 8:46 am

    Well this is surprising. And interesting timing. My bf of 4 years and I just had a conscious uncoupling yesterday. Very painful but very right! It was such a loving breakup…
    I hope you’re doing well.

  20. Avatar Sherry O on June 15, 2021 at 8:46 am

    You are so very strong. I love, love, love how open and strong you are! The kiddos will see how strong their momma is and will understand it’s better to be in a healthy relationship than an unhappy, toxic relationship.

    Thank you for being who you are and for what you do for our community. Sending positive vibes and thoughts your way!

    Hope to be able to join in one of your Ladies Tea Parties in the future!

  21. Avatar Rebecca on June 15, 2021 at 8:46 am

    Thanks for sharing! Best wishes for you and your family ❤️

  22. Avatar Abby on June 15, 2021 at 8:49 am

    Congratulations! Wishing you a smooth and peaceful transition back to single life. Living your truth is very important.

  23. Avatar Carrie on June 15, 2021 at 9:02 am

    Congrats! As a divorcée, I get it! Andrea, you have so much to offer. The way you have thought through your life, beliefs & your health, have you thought about doing another podcast?

  24. Avatar Whitney Schornagel on June 15, 2021 at 9:10 am

    Andrea! I’m proud of you!
    It’s challenging to make a huge decision like this, but I can fully understand where you’re coming from.
    Hello fresh new future full of love, joy and peace!!

    I too have gone through similar circumstances- in fact, during an EC video of yours years ago, I caught a peep of a particular FB support group you were part of and joined myself.

    In March of this year I also made this decision and filed for divorce; it was well grounded and supported.
    Stepping back brought so much peace!
    Two months later my husband met God, and his path completely turned around and NOW he’s the patient loving husband God promised I’d have on the other side .
    Today, I’m filing a motion to dismiss.

    All this to say, I believe in you and that you’re making the right steps for the health of you and your family!
    I’m so proud of you for all you’ve done and gone through behind the scenes.
    It’s though work as a single married Mama!
    I know that you’ll continue your success no matter who’s by your side.
    Keep on trusting that God is working all things for your good and everything will fall into place exactly as it’s supposed to!

    Prayers for peace, comfort and healing for you, David and all 5 of your babies! 🤍

    • Avatar Kate on June 16, 2021 at 4:53 pm

      Amazing story!!!!

      • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:44 am

        Thanks! 💕

  25. Avatar Brittney on June 15, 2021 at 9:12 am

    I wish you and your family all the best during this transition.

  26. Avatar Sera Love on June 15, 2021 at 9:12 am

    Congratulations! I wish I lived in Asheville and could tea party it up with you, but know that I’ll tea party it up with my local ladies and send you the loving, joyful vibes.

  27. Avatar Florence on June 15, 2021 at 9:41 am

    Hi Andrea,

    My heart goes out to you and you family, divorce can be very very destabilising for the kids, not to talk about an emotional blow for the couple. I am praying for you and especially for the children, that God Almighty will give you peace and shield the children from too much hurt or any lasting damages.

    I pray for healing for you and a forever husband, however God has planned it for you.

  28. Avatar Rachel on June 15, 2021 at 10:46 am

    Congratulations for getting out of a toxic relationship. 2 questions though:
    I thought that Surrendered Wife saves all. Also when you were pregnant with Twyla you said it is your last one. What changed?

  29. Avatar Brigette Swensen on June 15, 2021 at 11:19 am

    Good luck and God bless! Thanks for the resources you’ve provided my family!

  30. Avatar Sarah-jayne on June 15, 2021 at 11:20 am

    Congratulations!!
    You are worth it!!
    I wish you nothing but health, wealth and happiness as you transition along your new path… Gohusbandfree.com… Woohoo
    You’ve got this… Sending you a bunch of good vibes :-)

  31. Avatar Candace on June 15, 2021 at 11:37 am

    I have prayed and will pray for you and your family during this time. I wish I did live nearby to attend the ladies tea parties, those sound like fun! I hope everyone finds what they need during this transition and beyond!

  32. Avatar Mel on June 15, 2021 at 11:39 am

    Best of luck. I hope things go as smoothly as possible.

  33. Avatar Lindse on June 15, 2021 at 11:52 am

    My parents were unhappy and would fight alot when I was a kid. They finally got divorced when I was 9 and things got happier after that. I am a firm believer that it is better to divorce when your kids are younger then trying to stick it out. I have seen some of my friends parents divorce when I got older and it was not a good time for anyone

  34. Avatar Rachel on June 15, 2021 at 11:55 am

    Thank you for sharing 🙏

  35. Avatar Sharon on June 15, 2021 at 12:21 pm

    Congratulations! Life is too short to be unhappy. No need to suffer any more than is necessary. Good for you for having the courage to forge a new path. Best of luck to you both. ❤️

  36. Avatar Nicoley Oley on June 15, 2021 at 12:31 pm

    Omgoodness, Andrea, I’m going to first say I’m sorry that you had this experience, but also congratulations on taking the super hard and totally brave step to protect your mental and emotional wellbeing, and that of your children as well!

    As a survivor of an emotionally abusive marriage, I can tell you it’s so worth it to finally take that step, no matter how hard it is or may seem. And it sounds like you’re already shedding the toxic garbage! It’s an amazing feeling, isn’t it? Talk about validation! It’s so tough when us mamas feel responsible for giving our kids “everything,” and the world tells us that means the two parent family with the “perfect” life and everything just so. We want the best for our kiddos. But sometimes that fantasy is not what’s best for any of us, and trying to force or hang on to it can actually be the worst. Sending you huge virtual hugs, praying for all of you (including David, sounds like he needs it too!), and I’m here as a friend who’s been there and come out the other side happily remarried with his first baby on the way in September (big bro and big sis are thrilled ❤️).

    You are an amazing, generous, loving person and I’m so proud of you for focusing on YOU so you can be who you were made to be. Some people will read this and pass judgement on me too, but you and I know you can’t understand unless you’ve been there and you won’t have compassion unless you want to. We’ll stick together and we’ll be better than fine, we’ll be free. 💪🏼

  37. Avatar Grace Potts on June 15, 2021 at 12:48 pm

    I’m about to go through the same thing my sister in Christ. I first learned of your program after my daughter turned 1. I used the same method with my son 2 weeks after we were released from the hospital. They are now 9 and 7 and thriving from this foundation. Remember that the Lord is with you and he will never forsake you. I thank him for binding us in his love. I thank him for his precious promises. We are free from sin through the son of God by grace through faith. The enemy has no dominion over our households. All of what we are going through is all for his Glory. We bless him and all of our hope and trust is in him. Thank you for sharing your heart and testimony the community.

  38. Avatar Laura on June 15, 2021 at 12:54 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. I am just a casual observer to your blog for past two yrs and can resonate with some of the life transitions you have openly shared. Sending well wishes for joy, peace, and ease to your family and others out there going through similar life events.

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:18 am

      Thank you for your well wishes to me, my family, and others. I wish you and yours peace and joy as well! ❤️

  39. Avatar Kathy Kinney on June 15, 2021 at 1:07 pm

    Congratulations! Lots of prayers for you guys. All of your FAQs hit me solidly where I live especially the part about wanting my kids to have a happy mom even if she’s poor. Working on finding time to do some self-care as well. Good job for having the confidence to be who you and the kids need you to be.
    The love and respect material does not cover everything especially if one person is not 100% on board, and thinks it’s all about them.
    LOL my husband would love a bunker in the back property. He has a tiny house in our backyard for his office but he would love to live in it if he could😂

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:23 am

      Thank you for your prayers!

      I guess if you ever want some space you can build your husband a bunker in the back of the property. 😆❤️

  40. Avatar Andrea on June 15, 2021 at 1:24 pm

    Thank you for sharing such a personal thing with all of us. I wish you and your family the best. And congratulations for fighting for your happiness. I sure love to hear it and I’m sure it helps a lot of us in one way or another. I’d love to meet you. I’m a couple hours away from Asheville 😃

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:25 am

      Thank you for your support! Happiness is so important to our overall health.

      It would be great to meet up one day.💕

  41. Avatar Cole on June 15, 2021 at 3:01 pm

    Good luck Andrea! Not easy to get divorced. Hope you have some good friends that you can lean on! Call me anytime! I’ve been through a divorce.

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:25 am

      Thanks! Will reach out if I need it. ❤️

  42. Avatar Petra on June 15, 2021 at 5:24 pm

    Inspiring as always! You will be and do great, no doubt. Please keep us posted on how you are doing and feeling. What an exciting new journey for all of you. It is a golden opportunity that you are giving yourself for a fullfilling, peacefull and happy life! Thank you for sharing and trusting us. Lots of love, namaste

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:26 am

      Namaste, and thank you for the beautiful and supportive words. ❤️

  43. Avatar Judy on June 15, 2021 at 5:28 pm

    I know how u feel and what u might be going through it’s hard in the beginning but I’m slowly coming out of it and being a better person. It’s important for each parent to be happy in order for the kids to be happy. I am also a recent divorce mom and have kids. I tried staying in the relationship and when I suggested couples therapy he said no cuz he don’t love me anymore. So it doesn’t help when I try to mend things and he don’t want to. I pray for you to be able to find a wonderful husband who will love you and your children and for you and your children to be happy and healthy.

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:27 am

      Thank you, and same back to you! ❤️

  44. Avatar Paige on June 15, 2021 at 7:09 pm

    Andrea, you’re amazing and we love you! I have learned so much from you already and have missed the monthly live meetings! Wishing you all the harmony and abundance you need at this challenging time!

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:28 am

      Thank you! I feel the love from you and so many others here. Such a wonderful feeling to be supported and understood. 💖

  45. Avatar Kady on June 16, 2021 at 1:12 am

    Sending love and light to everyone involved. You, the kids and David. It is important for us all to be honest and true with ourselves about what we NEED to function in a healthy relationship and I respect that you have made this decision. Congratulations on this new chapter :)

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:37 am

      Thank you! It is a new chapter! ❤️

  46. Avatar Cayla R on June 16, 2021 at 1:38 am

    I’m so sorry that all of your hard work towards repairing your marriage hasn’t been reciprocated, and I’m praying for healing and wholeness for you! You obviously LOVE to help others, and I’m so glad that you’re reaching out for help yourself.

    Also, way to be confident in your decision prior to posting about it. Divorce is hard and messy and painful, but you have obviously weighed all of that and found health for yourself and your children worth the challenge!

    Stay strong, sweet mama! Jesus always has more for you on your journey than can be imagined. Hugs and kisses to you and your babies! xxoo

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:38 am

      Thank you! The support and encouragement is greatly appreciated. ❤️

  47. Avatar Flurina on June 16, 2021 at 2:22 am

    I wish you all the best for you and your family! My mum is a couple therapist and she says sometimes it is better to seperate/divorce. She became a couple therapist after it has helped herself a lot the couple therapy for her relationship. I also went to a couple therapst with my boyfriend and it helped us. But sure not every therapy is so helpful. I can really advice the emotionally focused couples and family therapy from Sue Johnson. She has an interesting book called “Hold me tight”. It helped me when I was in crises. Best Greetings from Switzerland

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:42 am

      Thank you for the wishes!

      I agree with your mom, in that it is sometimes better to divorce/separate then it is to stay together. Whatever is best, ideally it is done consciously, amicably, and in the best interest of all those involved. 💖

  48. Avatar Cathy on June 16, 2021 at 9:21 am

    Peace and love xo

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:43 am

      ✌️❤️😘

  49. Avatar Anna on June 16, 2021 at 9:29 am

    Telepathic mail sent 😊🤗

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:44 am

      Received, Thank you! ❤️

  50. Avatar Viv on June 16, 2021 at 6:52 pm

    Congrats, Andrea! Divorce was painful for me but it was a necessary part of my journey in healing and growth. And I’d always much rather be happily single than unhappily coupled ;) “The Good Karma Divorce” is a book I found helpful during my split. Much love and strength to you all 💗

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:45 am

      Thank you very much! I’ll check out the book. ❤️

  51. Avatar Allison on June 17, 2021 at 2:13 pm

    Thank you deeply for continuing to turn your life experiences into shared cultural knowledge for the rest of us! This experience, like all your others that have led to your life-changing businesses, will continue to make our world a better, more connected place. Keep up the good fight, Sending all the good vibes for that could-be future family and new baby.

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:48 am

      Thank you! Feeling the good vibes.💖

  52. Avatar Diana Centlewski on June 18, 2021 at 11:11 am

    Sending you all love, peace and joy!
    Thank you for sharing, this takes so much courage, you are truly an inspiration to me!
    I appreciate everything you do, and everything you stand for!
    Congratulations!

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:49 am

      Thank you! It is encouragement like yours and others on here that keep me going on. ❤️

  53. Avatar Pirah on June 19, 2021 at 12:48 am

    Sending you love and prayers for ur smooth sailing of life.
    This is a difficult decision to make so kuddos to u andrea:)
    U r a strong woman<3

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:50 am

      Thank you! Tough decision no doubt, but the best. ❤️

  54. Avatar Pirah on June 19, 2021 at 12:50 am

    Sending you love and prayers for ur smooth sailing of life.
    This is a difficult decision to make so kuddos to u andrea:)
    U r a strong woman<3
    May ur children grow to be happy healthy in individuals to the society too❤️

    • Andrea Olson Andrea Olson on June 21, 2021 at 2:51 am

      No doubt they will be. 💖

  55. Avatar SE on July 9, 2021 at 12:22 pm

    I find this post inspiring….as someone in an EC relationship with my freshly One-year-old and a far less than perfect marriage. Self Respect and Love are what it’s all about. I have been living as a single mom for a month while my husband moved clear across the continent, hoping I will follow. I’m not sure I will, time will tell… but I still needed to read this to remind me that it will be okay.

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