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EC + Pregnancy: When you just can’t EC while pregnant (and other life lessons)

EC + Pregnancy - When you just can’t EC while pregnant (and other life lessons)

This is a guest post from Laura Durkee, our certified coach in Lima, Ohio. Enjoy! xx Andrea

EC + Pregnancy When you just can’t EC while pregnant

Once upon a time, there was a mom who read the entirety of Go Diaper Free before her second son's birth. She bought the mats, the potty cozies, printed out charts, and practiced her p's and q's (they sounded like “pssss” and “mmmmm”). And once upon a time, that beautiful baby boy was born, and that mama suddenly realized she had TWO tiny humans to care for. Despite being so well-prepared, she just couldn't seem to manage full-time EC with the effortlessness of her friends (or her own imagination).

Once upon a time, that mom was me. I was so proud of my new-found EC knowledge, so committed to doing everything “the right way”, I was sure my second child would ease out of diapers by 12 months and be a walking testament to my amazing parenting well before his second birthday. 

Now, you seasoned mamas know just what happens when we start thinking like that.

My darling second-born didn't follow the pattern of my firstborn. At. ALL. 

He sat up late (hold a heavy 6-mo over a sink while healing from pelvic prolapse, anyone?), crawled late, and didn't even try standing til 14 months (so much for my mobile testimony). He didn't say a single word. (Was that C in EC for “communication”?) He was often quite happy playing by himself (a blessing in most cases, I realize), and felt no need to relay to me, by verbal means or otherwise, his elimination (mis)adventures.

Pottytunities were my gold. 

(Pottytunities is defined as “a natural potty opportunity”. I learned this playful term and got my real kick-start into real-life EC through the Potty Time Master MiniCourse.)

EC + Pregnancy - When you just can’t EC while pregnant

With an older brother who also needed my attention, I came to rely on elements in our existing routine to trigger a potty opportunity for my younger (EC Lesson 1). Combined with his silent need-to-poo signal (I'd sense a shift in the room's energy, and look at him, to see him looking back with those “uh-oh Mom, it's coming” eyes), our catch rate increased and as he moved toward comfortably walking. I could almost taste my diaper-freedom. And then.

It's not that Number Three was unwanted. He was just rather...unexpected. I was so darn sick, I could barely get off the couch the entire first trimester. Any energy I had was prioritized, and EC took the bottom rung of that ladder. I felt myself slipping into self-pity as the pile of wet diapers increased daily. “Oh!” I lamented, “now my toddler won't be out of diapers until he's TWO!” (Ahem. Reality check, my dear: that's still over a year before the norm, not to mention he was completely comfortable with pottying and the mentality of diapers as a tool, not toilet, which is miles ahead of where his brother was at that age!)

That's when it occurred to me to use what I had (EC and Life Lesson 2). I didn't have the energy to watch for Number Two's non-verbal cues, let alone whisk him to a potty if I miraculously noticed something. I did, however, have the energy to lift him to and from his crib at nap/bedtime, and to/from his highchair at mealtimes. 

THIS. This is what we'd use. 

I put the mini potty around the corner from our kitchen table, in view of the couch. After a meal, since I was already picking him up out of the chair, instead of putting him on the floor and grieving that I kept missing signals, I put him on the potty. And then I laid down on the couch and pretended not to watch him. (On days he had the fidgets, I put him on the seat reducer. ) In one week (that's 21+ meals, after all, of practice), he was pooping on the potty. Every. Single. Time. We regained our 100% poop catch, and he learned a valuable routine piece he still incorporates today of his own volition.

As soon as the nausea lessened and I had a wee bit more energy (Lesson 3: this was not my initial plan, but we adjusted and went with the flow!), I set aside a weekend and walked him through the Tiny Potty Training process.

EC + Pregnancy - When you just can’t EC while pregnant - EC and Life lesson

He sailed through, then floundered when clothing entered the mix. Isadora (from the TPT videos) and Bear (Trainers) helped him master the Great Pant Push-Down in terms of mechanics, but something in his developmental journey wasn't yet ready to take ownership of the clothing portion when he felt the urge to void his bladder while away from me. (Lesson 4: your journey might not look exactly like someone else's, and that's ok). It took a few months of relying more on pottytunities and stressing less about wet pants. (Lesson 5: pee is sterile, and cotton rocks. If you catch the pee accident immediately, simply rinse your trainers/pants, and hang to dry or lay on your floor's heat vent for a free dryer cycle. Re-use.) 

Then, all of a sudden, he started running to the potty on his own and handling his clothing like a pro. He actually refused my help because he had this; he was a big boy, and he was going to do it by himself! I can't even remember exactly when everything finally clicked; it just flowed along with life. (Lesson 6: The EC – and parenting - journey is like that: one day all you can see is trees, then all of a sudden, you say, “wow, look, it's a forest!”)

Once upon a time, ideal met reality, and once upon a time, it all turned out ok. Take a deep breath, mama, you've got this. 

Have you done EC while pregnant? What are your best tips? 

Big thanks to Laura for this amazing guest post! Visit her at xx Andrea


PS - here’s the video version of this episode in case you prefer to YouTube it. ;)

Laura Durkee

About Laura Durkee

Laura is a Go Diaper Free Coach and mama of four who suddenly found her city-girl self homesteading in 2022. (Thank God she already knew the secrets of EC + clothes lines!) She loves the extra space and their goofy rooster who can’t crow a lick, but is still getting used to all the bees wanting to party while she’s hanging laundry on the line. If you want the scoop on the low key way to EC or early potty train – whether you’re on 5 acres or 500 square feet - reach out to


  1. Avatar Elaine on July 14, 2020 at 6:42 am

    Thank you for this funny-because-its-true story about your EC experience! I did not have the opportunity to EC while pregnant.

    • Laura Laura on July 14, 2020 at 11:40 am

      Thanks, Elaine! :) Everyone’s journey is unique (which is why I love the community here; we get to learn from such diverse experience!) – and kids sure provide plenty of comical relief ;)

    • Avatar Andrea Olson on July 15, 2020 at 4:23 pm

      Such a great story!

  2. Avatar Courtney on July 14, 2020 at 7:51 am

    This is so encouraging to me right now because it’s me. Trying to EC/potty train my first while pregnant with my second and soooo sick in my first trimester. I’ve learned the same lesson…prioritizing where the energy goes. This post was encouraging to see I’m not alone and we will get there. Thank you!!

    • Laura Laura on July 14, 2020 at 11:45 am

      Oh, Courtney! I’m so sorry you’re feeling so sick this time around. Hugs!! You absolutely WILL get there. :) One day at a time. Congrats on the wee bean! :)

    • Avatar Andrea Olson on July 15, 2020 at 4:23 pm

      I hope you’re feeling better soon Courtney!

  3. Avatar Kiko on July 14, 2020 at 4:53 pm

    Pregnant with my 4th and currently ECing my 3rd, ECed my older 2 while pregnant too. I get super emotional and tend to label my parenting based off of how well EC is going or not and sometimes get too hard on the kids… letting go and going with the flow, relying on pottytunities is huge for me so this story definitely rang true!

    My 1st was more of a struggle and perhaps not true EC.. I started at 23 months because he didn’t walk until then and I also had a lot of issues with other caregivers and (me) not knowing how to handle that.

    My second was just like this story actually! There are ups and downs and we went through some months where we had 0 accidents and then we would be in a new environment and it was like she didn’t even know what “pee” meant anymore but she told me she was done with nighttime diapers at 26 months and she has maybe had 3 daytime accidents and 0 nighttime accidents since then (just turned 3 last month).

    My 3rd is now 18 months and we have been ECing for 3 months ish. Some days we have 0 accidents and either the pottytunities are enough or he cues/comes to tell me/runs into the bathroom on his own. Other days (like today) he gets a hold of too much liquid in the morning and we go through 10 pairs of pants by noon (but he poops on the potty I’d say…. 90% of the time! The ones he misses are looser stools that come quite fast).

    I’m actually more concerned about what will happen once the baby comes (any day now…) I find that with the other 2, I would sit down to nurse the baby and then someone suddenly will need to pee/poop. There was a lot of nursing near the potty !

    • Avatar Andrea Olson on July 15, 2020 at 4:26 pm

      Isn’t that always the case? Everyone needs mama at the same time. Maybe set up a potty station near where you usually nurse. You can work on having your toddler push down pants and sit independently so they can go when you’re tending to baby.

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